I read for a lot of people who are striving to create something, like a new relationship or more income in their business.  These people book a reading with me because they want to know how to get from A to B.

I do so many readings like these that you’d think by now, through osmosis, I’d have some secret spiritual formula for creating change and getting what I want.  Obviously I don’t have a series of practical ‘here’s-how-you-get from-A-to-B steps for every scenario. But I have noticed broader principles in action, which when applied to your situation, allow you to create change, every time.  These principles the spirit world consistently point out to clients when the client asks how to get from A to B, using the law of attraction.

It’s this: when we want to create something in our lives (let’s take the example of a new business), what we most desire is not a new business.  It’s the expansion that the business will allow us in our lives.

Creating the business is just a means to expand into an energy (or a collection of energies) – let’s say boldness, just as an example here. And then enjoying a prosperous business is the result of expanding into that energy.

Expanding into Boldness

All of this might sound pretty abstract to you so I’ll give you an example in my own life of what I mean.  A few weeks ago, I was feeling like something was wrong with the readings that I do for people.  I wondered if I needed to stop doing them because something was no longer feeling right.  I obviously needed to create some sort of change in my readings, but I didn’t know what.

Then I realized what was bothering me.  Since I started doing readings two years ago, I had always prepared them beforehand.  I always spent 25-60 minutes doing research so that when I started talking to the client I’d know all about their issue before they’d even told me anything.  I liked doing this. Even though it was time-consuming and I charged a lot for it, I didn’t care because it was safe, I had everything under control and I knew beforehand that I’d be delivering a good service.

But I began to notice that I no longer needed to do this.  I started to resent preparing readings because I was getting plenty of information on the spot.  I was also doing spirit guide coaching and did virtually no preparation for it, and the sessions flowed beautifully.

In order to feel good about my readings again, I needed to stop preparing and just trust spirit to give me the right information as I needed it.  But I couldn’t bring myself to stop preparing.

I lacked two qualities: boldness and trust.

I wanted to stop preparing for my readings because I really want to expand further into the energies of boldness and trust.

Who Do You Need to Become?

So, this is why you have any desire - not because you want to create a business or a new relationship, but because on a soul-level you want to expand into someone who creates a business or a great new relationship.

For this reason, in order to reach your goal it can be really helpful to ask yourself – why am I having the desire to reach this goal?

What kind of person do I need to be in order to get there?

What kind of person achieves the state/goal/thing that I want?

Where might I falling short right now?

You don’t ask this question in order to make yourself feel bad or beat yourself up, but you need some awareness of what you are expanding into, because then you can consciously BECOME someone who is a vibrational match for your goal.

This is actually most of the work in getting to your goal.  Yes, you may need to take massive action as well, but without becoming someone who can reach your goal, your efforts are useless.

To give you another example, some of the people on my spirit guides coaching course are in a process of massive expansion.  They think they booked a course for intuitive development and it turns out some of these people also booked a ticket on a 6 week roller-coaster ride of personal growth as well! Some of them are being challenged to expand into certain energies – like trust, empowerment, truth and courage – in order to get any further along their path of psychic development (and they really want to!) so they’re making it happen and becoming vibrational matches for very psychic people.

How to become someone who is a vibrational match for your goal

There are few steps in this. The first one is:

1. Find out which qualities you need to cultivate in order to get to your goal.

Imagine you’ve achieved your goal already – who are you?

Maybe you are seeking to expand into more…

Self-love (meeting your needs and wants, eliminating self-sacrifice and bending over backwards for other people) faith (trusting that whatever happens will be good), playfulness (lightening up, learning not to take life – or yourself – too seriously), courage, boldness, patience, self-discipline, calmness or empowerment.

These are just some examples I’ve seen lately.  Then..

2. Set a conscious intention to embrace and become those energies in your life.

Ask your spirit guides or higher self out loud for guidance in order to become the person who can create what you want.

This is what I did for my readings.  I knew I needed to be bolder and just trust more but I didn’t know how I was going to become someone who was OK with not preparing for my readings. After all, I’d been preparing for two years and I was (am) someone who likes to have everything under control.  I am also very attached to providing a service with a lot of value. So, I just put the intention out there and released it.

It turns out that I didn’t need to know HOW to become more bold and trusting.

As always, I quickly found the resources and people who helped me with that.  Firstly, I arranged an appointment with Andrea Hess (my mentor and the lady who taught me to read for people) about something completely unrelated.  As the appointment neared, I realized the reason why I booked it no longer applied and instead I talked to her about this issue.  She gave me some great advice which helped a lot.

Then I had a session with my coach Angela and we eliminated various limiting beliefs I had about providing value and my own worth.  It was an intense process – one of the most intense and healing experiences I’ve ever had in my life.

A few days afterwards, to my surprise, I realized I had become someone who felt much bolder and braver and I felt able to eliminate the preparation.

It may not sound like much to you, but for me it was a big step!

So like I did, you can be passive, set an intention and wait for guidance to happen to take you towards your goal. At other times you may need to be proactive about it and…

3. Brainstorm practical steps to take to move towards the energies you are seeking

If you know you need to embrace more courage in order to start a new business, try little things that scare you – such as going to an event where you’ll know nobody.  Become someone who pushes yourself out of your comfort zone regularly with little things, then move onto the bigger steps.

If you need more self-worth in order to get to your goal, list all the behaviours which you know you do which demonstrate lack of self-worth – like not asking for what you want, or assuming that people have no time for you. And consciously behave differently, even if it’s just for a day. 

Another good idea is to spend time with people who already possess the qualities you need to cultivate in yourself in order to get to your goal, as their behaviours and mindset rub off on you.

4. Understand that this is the key to consciously creating the things you want and the world you want

Everything that happens around you is a perfect mirror of your internal reality.  As an example, if you are not self-loving on the inside, you attract relationships and circumstances which reflect this state back to you.

When you change who you are on the inside, your external world changes too.  That is why you must always change your internal world first, before you can see any changes in your life.  How can you manifest something in your external reality if it’s missing from your internal reality?  You can’t, and this is where people often fail.  Understand this process and you are much more likely to create what you want.

I’ve told you what I’m expanding into right now.

What about you?

I’d love to hear what you are creating at the moment and who you are becoming in the process of getting there. Please leave a comment!

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